What every woman should know while looking for a BDSM experience in Delhi

What every woman should know while looking for a BDSM experience in Delhi

Delhi is one place where if you are a woman you need to be sure of what you are getting into. I meet many women who are curious about the BDSM scene in Delhi but just don’t know where to start. Here are a few pointers that will help you in taking your first steps in the world of BDSM in a safe yet enjoyable way

• Be sure of what you want. BDSM can be many things for many people so you need to very sure of what you are looking for. For some its an alternative lifestyle where they indulge to find their real self without the fear of getting judged. For some it may not be a physical sexual play but a mental connect and exploration of their dark sides. And then there are people for whom its just another form of kinky sexual activity where one assumes the role of a Dom/Sub to spice up the sexual encounters. My suggestion is that unless you really want to experience a lifestyle you should stay away from it as finding a real Dom/Sub who also really understands the lifestyle and can be responsible about it is not easy. 

• Be sure about your personality type: Its not very uncommon for people to not know about their personality type.  Just because you are an independent person who is in control of their life does not mean that you are a Dom and just because you appear kind and giving to the world does not mean that you are a sub, A very good place to know about your real personality type is to take  this  BDSM Test

• Do not mistake erotica with BDSM : If the idea of being blind folded excites you then these can be fulfilled by pure erotic encounters and you do not need to go looking for bdsm. And yes actually this is one of the problems with us that when it comes to love making we do not innovate and experiment. Its always man on top or woman or top so whenever we read or see something a little bit different it looks exotic to us ! ‘

• BDSM is not 50 Shades of Grey: Just like what happens on the screen does not happen in real life the same is true for fiction too. So if your reason to try out BDSM is because of the fact that you just read 50 Shades of Grey then please reconsider!
  
• Read a lot about BDSM: If you already have not then read a lot about BDSM to increase your understanding about it. If you think that you are naturally a sub then read http://hustlerhollywoodstores.com/bdsm-101-how-to-be-a-good-submissive/
  
  If you are looking to be a good dom then read this http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant/

• Attend a munch: For the uninitialized munch is a social public gathering of people in a restaurant or public place. Because of the setting its usually the best place to meet like minded people. Now where to find a good genuine munch in delhi can be a task in itself, I hold munches once in a while around Hauz Khas Village so if you are interested just drop me a line at cruelmaster777@gmail.com 

• Safety and Privacy is sacrosanct. This is something that I don’t need to talk about a lot when you are in Delhi. This is just a reminder just so that in the heat of things you forget!

Hopefully you find this useful and are able to make an informed decision about your first steps into the world of BDSM

Lend me your slave

Lend me your slave not because I asked for her but because its your kink and she will do all to satisfy your kink

Lend me your slave not because I want to spank her ass and cause her pain but because she will think of you as I spank her and feel good that she takes the pain for you

Lend me your slave not because I want to feel her tits but because she wants you to feel proud when she offers me her tits

Lend me your slave not because I want to make her pussy wet and scream in orgasm but because you want to reward her for being the one for you

Lend me your slave only because you know that when all is done and over with your bond with her would have become stronger and you would have experiences to share and fuel those kinky nights!

Longing

What would be like for you to find
that after such a long, long time
your heart is ready to trust
your soul is ready to be taken
your body is ready to feel those feelings of passion and belonging once again
Can you imagine placing your hand on the knob of that door unopened,
where once you locked away your dreams, fantasies and desires
where once you placed those flickering embers of your heart
until you could welcome their fires?
When you know that you are ready now to fill that space within
so that your long craving for being owned is finished
and your happiness can begin-
when you know that you have finally found someone whom you can give your body to
and give control of everything that you do till the time you start feeling those feelings all over again

The secret that everyone knows but no one tells you about fetlife

DISCLAIMER: I respect every sexuality and every orientation. But when it comes to choosing my own I will still choose my own!

One fine day you wake up and realize that the kink has gone missing in your life. So like the monkey who swings from rope to rope going particularly no where you wade through hundreds of emails of that dirty email account that was lying dormant for so many years. Finally you settle down on fetlife to renter the world of kink. You remember the glory days when you were in the center of it all holding swinger parties that everyone kinkster wanted to be part of. But past being past one needs to start all over again. So I try to connect to people and even try organizing an event which I think is my forte. So after few days of activity what is the result? Disappointing? Frustrating? Entertaining? ...YES all of this in different proportions but never REWARDING! Many of you will say that I am being judgmental but my point is that I logged on to fetlife not to make a point or be a part of crusade about alternate sexuality but I came to explore my own sexuality. And after all these days of exploration the following sums up my conquests

• 23 communications from sissy boys wanting to be used.
• 16 communication from men telling me that they are kinky and they want to have sex and if i can help them find females to have sex. From few lines of English to a single line "Wanna fuck a girl"
• One comment on my post to keep my sexuality to myself (I like and welcome these comments)
• One pm showing sympathy towards my loneliness ( I again appreciate the thoughtfulness though I am not lonely.
• *One paid escort who is smart enough to realize that there lies an opportunity here

Now whenever I login with a remote anticipation all i get to see is new set of pics of dicks hanging in profile pics of all those who sent me a pm. Does this sound familiar? When you see the icon at the top of the page saying 6 new messages and then you click with excitement and only to see a fresh set of dicks peeping in your face!

Any other time I would have thought that it would be a waste of time finding your own kink online but I thought maybe over the years the times have changed but ,,,,

Will you be the one to say hello?

Its been few days now that I have been in fetlife and I am still waiting for someone to say "hello". Yes when I say this I don't mean the communication that happens when I post something but a hello which actually means "Lets explore the possibilities". As they say that it all starts with a hello so maybe this will be the turning point for you and the hello will start a new direction in our lives. A hello will lead to new connects being made. A hello will let the flood gates of your dark side open and lead you through a tide that makes your tits erect in excitement and your pussy wet in anticipation. A hello will transform you from bring your self and transform you into an object that I use and abuse for my sexual gratification. A hello will throw you in a storm where you feel that pain in your ass and your ears hear abuses that humiliate you and you just accept your fate and give in as a worthless whore who value only lies in being degraded. A hello will transform you from a lady who has self respect who can hold out on her own to a slave that is shared among many men as piece of cumbag, men who I pick to treat with your body. A hello will lead to many things but most of all it will end up in two people discovering each other and fulfilling each other in the kinkiest possible ways

Imagine all of it and tell me that do you feel the need to say "hello"? On my part I will just wait ....

Time to really give in and surrender

Have you ever been there for someone
when you weren't suppose to care
when others try to say its "wrong"
but you know that the "connect" is there.
Friends try to stop you
but your heart knows the truth
society does not understand
its not about your age and or youth
because the connection that you will feel
will be certainly real this time
Perhaps you were destined to be on my feet
and perhaps in some other universe at some other time our souls already met and our bodies responded to each other
and it does not matter for you know its the perfect match for your body and mind
For you feel so connected
you feel so understood
that you already feel that you belong to me
and you know that you are headed for a new direction
and you know that it will be good..
all you need to do is start by saying hello to me !

Sublime connection

Can you remember a time?
when fingertips touched your face
and the message they traced was
how precious you are to me?
When you think of having a daddy this is all that yo wished for
more than you expected and all that you deserve;
when you wake in the morning
and lie warm in your bed
luxuriating in your body’s memory
in that closeness and comfort
in that place of dreams
where memory and fantasy and hope combine-
in those first thought you may find me there.
For I have entered with these words seeking sublime connection to know you,and be known.
Can you remember a time?
when fingertips touched your face?

Your ideal BDSM attraction and coach in Delhi

We all talk about finding that ideal master but what would be that ideal attraction? Just stop and think about your ideal attraction and you will realize that you are basically thinking about three elements. These 3 elements can be very much compared to the elements you feel when you get on a roller coaster ride in an amusement park (sometimes life become so that I myself start feeling like a ride!) .When you first climb on this ride there’s that time when you’re going that long, slow, vertical climb up. You feel your heart beating faster, you realize your breathing is starting to come faster and faster, and you feel that anticipation, that desire, that excitement about going down. Then when you go down that first slope, you’re screaming with excitement all the way going down and you can feel the thrill just rushing through your body.

The second element about this ride is that this ride is safe. You know that you can get on this because, ultimately, it’s very sturdy, very well-built and you’re safe. You’re not going to fall off or get hurt. And because you feel totally safe, it frees you to feel all those exciting feelings.

Finally, this ride has to be fascinating and it truly is. There are so many different twists and turns as soon as you get off you want to climb right back on this again.  You know, it makes me realize it’s sort of like the connection that you really want to experience with someone who you realize you’re really feeling something special with!.

PS: Think about it. When you were a little girl, was there some kind of candy that was the king of your candy castle? Imagine having a daddy who makes you an addict for his candy all over again”

Who is a perfect dom?

I often come across people defining how a dom should be or what it means to be a dom. Then there is lots of judgement that goes on but the question is who certifies who is a perfect dom. I believe that like in any other relationship here also the most important thing is the "compatibility" between the two people involved. One persons dream/fantasy dom may turn out to be an absolute nightmare for the other. Look around you and you will find that the person everyone hates the most has also got a best friend. So for the best friend the most hated person is the perfect person as they mutually satisfy each other and as long as the compatibility index is high it really does not matter whether the other person is the greatest or not!

Sub as a replacement for booze and smoke

I do not drink and to surprise of many dont even smoke and that leaves many people perplexed who often end up asking me the question "What do you do to get a high?". That question does not bother me much but what matters to me is what I do  when i am a little frustrated or overworked. While at work every now and then I see people taking smoking breaks to release their stress and just like that I feel like taking an abuse break whenever i get too stressed out. I feel the need to have a sub whom I can call every now and then when at work and abuse her excessively till i can get it all out of my system and feel rejuvenated again. The idea of having a human in flesh and blood whom you can use in anyway you want till the time your frustration is out sounds very empowering and even the thought of it gives me a high.

Think about it. As a sub what would give you a bigger high? Drinking or the feeling that you are owned by me in such a way that you are used for everything and anything in my life. After all you can not connect to booze in a way that you can connect to a real man who can use you in such a way that is fulfilling for both you and him...