What 50 Shades of Grey has done to India

Besides all other kinds of divides India has seen over the years (caste /religion etc) there is now one more kind of divide : Those who have read 50 shades of grey and those who have not. This divide is more steep and and has brought some kind of elitist mindset in those who have read it!!! After Chetan Bhagat EL James has succeeded to bring the Indian masses into reading who otherwise would hardly even ever read the newspaper editorial. Do a quick survey and you will find that 9 out of every 10 women who have read the book are women. Does this indicate something ? One thing is sure that it has initiated more women to the idea of mommy porn :) Porn was the domain of men but this book have initiated women into mommy porn and in some ways helped many explore their sexuality. Now many women are keen to try out erotic things that would have given them a a kick and it has started the flights of fantasy in many. Of course many are left shocked but for most the read is an enjoyable and "satisfying" experience. Need I explain further? :)

My First BDSM party in Delhi ! You are invited

I am toying with the idea of doing a BDSM meet in Delhi to give people in the community a platform,  I am a veteran of holding swingers parties in Delhi so exactly am aware of the challenges in doing these kinds of meets. Obviously privacy is everyone top priority and then people have a list of  preferences. But I am generally not too keen on inviting people who are too judgmental and come with a long list of preconditions on the kind of people they would like to meet. These parties are meant to benefit the BDSM community and while i assure and will go every length to maintain the privacy of the guests I expect the guests to show respect to  others.

It takes a lot of effort to organize these party and what makes it even more challenging is that you can not take anyone's help as you would like to keep it as much discreet as possible. I generally meet everyone first to ensure that they are genuinely interested in the concept and will respect everyone in the community. I take this opportunity to explain everyone the rules and the do's an dont's.  But at the end the parties were always a lot of fun and till this day I get emails from couples to start the parties once again. Yes I will now start them once again but this time these would be BDSM parties!

Just in case you woud like to be a part of the BDSM parties write an email to me at cruelmaster777@gmail.com along with a small bio of you and your partner. The first few parties would be couples only parties ...

BDSM in Delhi...does the sub culture exist?

Today I decided to explore more if there are other people like me in Delhi and turned to google for help. I searched for the term 'BDSM Delhi' and a lot of results came up. I was thoroughly excited but my excitement got strangles in less than a minute as I browsed through the results as all the results were that of escort services. In the first two pages of the search results there was not even a single post that was not of an escort service and talked about BDSM otherwise.  But I have not left hopes yet and will continue to explore. Will update my posts regularly on this blog.

Of fetish BDSM and alternate lifestyle

As a part of online business retail business I do i thought of including a lingerie line to our products. I was suggested that a link http://shop.forloveandlemons.com/collections/lingerie/bras as a good site by my colleague. They said if I have to be a boutique store than it has to be like this one. On opening the site I had a broad smile on my face as what I was looking at would easily qualify as fetish clothing in the BDSM world.  But I can also safely say that some of those girl despite all that fanfare about 50 shades of grey may not even have heard teh term BDSM! Now that makes me wonder if we have stereotyped the BDSM community to certain kind of clothing and behavior. For those who even don't know BDSM or fetish these lingerie pics appear sexy. But someone who has some exposure to BDSM would immediately shy away it as an immediate association with BDSM would ring in. So does that mean that people who are into this lifestyle can dress sexy? Or you would rather not dress sexy barbecue you don't want to give an impression that you are associated with the lifestyle? Int being sexy and sensual a very natural desire for most of us? I strongly feel that looking sensual and feeling sexy is very basic to us humans and if one has to learn some traits from the BDSM comunity we should go ahead and take somethings that can add spice to our lives.....!