Because someone asked me the question yesterday, here are the 9 red flags that every woman in India trying to find the right BDSM partner may look out for
1. If they don't care to get to know you.
If they don’t care about getting to know you then they probably just want sex, Sometimes you also many want that too but otherwise its a big red flag!
2. If they don't take your needs into consideration.
Like every other relationship this too is one that is of give and take. Everyone has wants and needs, and when they are overlooked that is a massive red flag. Make sure your Dom is focused on your wants and needs. This is extremely important, especially when you are the one putting your trust into them.
3. It’s not a place for playing games and more so mind games.
We're not 5 years old playing Snakes and Ladders. Trying to manipulate someone into something is not good for anyone, So if he deliberately tries to give attention to someone and tries to make you feel less its just a grade 6 tactics he is trying to employ. You can surely do better than having someone like that as your dom
4. If they only talk to you when they want to.
Just run for the woods!. There's a difference between when they want to talk to you and when they have time to talk to you. Know the difference.
5. They're secretive.
If they're not willing to share any information with you, LEAVE. We all care about our privacy and for many like me this can be an alternative lifestyle that may not really have any bearing to real life but you still need to make sure that you know the bare minimum about who you are going get into.
6. Having unrealistic expectations and failing to nurture you.
If they immediately expect you to know and adhere to their rules then that is a big RED FLAG. Your dom needs to take out time to nurture the relationship and make you grow in it.
7. They don't make time for you.
If they only talk to you at the late hours of the night, or every now and then, then they are not worth your time. Find someone who is willing to make the time for you. Remember that you are precious and if a person can't make time for you, hop on to the next one.
8. They fail to keep their words.
Remember this that you are going to put your trust into someone, The DOM needs to show proof in his action that he is worthy of that trust, If your dom tells you that they will do x, y, and z and when the time comes, they don't actually follow through with what they say then its a red flag you just can not ignore.
9. They don't respect you.
Do I really need to get into this one?
These red flags are easy to notice and can not be missed. Just be on the lookout fort them and I can assure you that you will have a real good time with your chosen one while exploring your BDSM journey,
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