You are a submissive and you have dark fantasies. What are you going to do about it?

 How many of you feel guilty because of the dark fantasies you have? If you also have dark fantasies probably you also feel guilty to have it. But believe me you are not alone. Most of us have fantasies and since they are fantasies they are too much moved away from reality so we consider it dark. Most get this strong feeling of guilt too. But the thing is that despite the guilt you can not get these fantasies to stop and it makes you feel more guilty.  So what is the best way out if this loop? Simple. Talk to someone about your fantasies, Maybe do a role play and enact it to get it done with once and for all! 

In the world of BDSM sometimes consent is just not enough

 I went on a date this Saturday in a swanky pub in Gurgaon. Generally I don't get into get into personal details on the the first date but somehow I ended up telling her who I am in real life and other details about my profession. I date potential subs and generally being experienced in this game I know what to expect but here I suddenly realized that that my lovely date was already being subservient. We talked for over an hour and in the end I asked her if she was ready for some experimentation to which she readily agreed. But by this time I could sense that there was something amiss and I decided to probe her further. It did not take long for me to realize that although she was looking to be give in as a submissive in our equation but her behaviour was happening because she was a junior in my professional field and she was looking up to me in admiration and respect because of what i do professionally. At this point of time i realized that there is a very thin line between consent that happens because you are actively want to participate in something and consent coming because you are to much in adulation of a person and just can not say no to that person! 

Get my point?

5 facts about BDSM that "50 shades of grey" will not teach any Indian.

1. Do you know what BDSM actually stands for?
   
   Its funny how we keep on hearing about BDSM and never google it to see what it stands for, Let me save you that effort.

   BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M) . Yes this is not your usual acronym and who ever came up with this did a very good job of inclusiveness as BDSM can mean different things to different people. Of all the years I have been in this lifestyle and the people I have met I have found out that most Indians practice the Bondage and discipline part.

2. BDSM does not always involve sex and it can be a lifestyle too
   
   Since it can be a lifestyle it can be a state of awareness that you live in. For example you are a submissive you will want people to take control of you in varying degrees. Yes it maybe totally up to you as to how much control you may want to give. But the act of giving up control or assuming control can also be very gratifying.

3. People who are into BDSM are not damaged or deranged

   Just because someone wants to inflict pain on someone and someone and someone wants pain to be inflicted on them and suffer does not mean they are deranged. We all have the "other side" to us. If two people are willingly participating in an act that is not damaging physically or mentally  but only uplifts each other then its not a crime!
   
   

4. BDSM encounters are called “scenes.” and its your scene that you want to find!
   
   As I already said BDSM is not always sex, So you cant generally say that you laid someone or scored someone with BDSM experience . Instead you say that you scened with someone or had a scene with someone !

5. Free will is still sacrosanct

   God created us all to be free. Free will is something to fight the fiercest battles for. If you decide to be a slave to someone you decide it of your own free will. Forcing someone to do something against their will is just criminal. Period.

I didn't "make" her. I unlocked her. Making of a perfect sub.

 "Your Sir has made you the perfect woman "

This is something that is in one of the emails from my interns of last year. Moments like these make me feel proud of my interns and make all the time spent nurturing worth it.

While others may give me credit but create or make a perfect woman. In her case too I I didn't create her or make her.  I simply  gave her the "keys" to what has always been inside her, only locked deep within. I gave her love, protection, encouragement and most importantly, respect. I made her feel safe and secure, giving her the opportunity to reveal herself and the things she craves. Sure, I may have shown her the door but she opened them.

This is the key,  let  your sub discover herself. Let her realize her potential in every possible way. Let her reinvent herself. Do not think about how to "make" your sub do as you desire. Figure out what "keys" you need to cut to allow them to unlock what is deep down inside them. I can promise you if they open the doors on their own the experience will be so much more intense.

9 Red Flags: What every submissive must look out for while putting her trust into a Dom.

 Because someone asked me the question yesterday, here are the 9 red flags that every woman in India trying to find the right BDSM partner may look out for

1. If they don't care to get to know you.

If they don’t care about getting to know you then they probably just want sex, Sometimes you also many want that too but otherwise its a big red flag!  

2. If they don't take your needs into consideration.

Like every other relationship this too is one that is of give and take. Everyone has wants and needs, and when they are overlooked that is a massive red flag. Make sure your Dom is focused on your wants and needs. This is extremely important, especially when you are the one putting your trust into them.

3. It’s not a place for playing games and more so mind games.

We're not 5 years old playing Snakes and  Ladders. Trying to manipulate someone into something is not good for anyone, So if he deliberately tries to give attention to someone and tries to make you feel less its just a grade 6 tactics he is trying to employ. You can surely do better than having someone like that as your dom

4. If they only talk to you when they want to.

Just run for the woods!. There's a difference between when they want to talk to you and when they have time to talk to you. Know the difference.

5. They're secretive.

If they're not willing to share any information with you, LEAVE. We all care about our privacy and for many like me this can be an alternative lifestyle that may not really have any bearing to real life but you still need to make sure that you know the bare minimum about who you are going get into.

6. Having unrealistic expectations and failing to nurture you.

If they immediately expect you to know and adhere to their rules then that is a big RED FLAG. Your dom needs to  take out time to nurture the relationship and make you grow in it. 

7. They don't make time for you.

If they only talk to you at the late hours of the night, or every now and then, then they are not worth your time. Find someone who is willing to make the time for you. Remember that you are precious and if a person can't make time for you, hop on to the next one.

8. They fail to keep their words.

Remember this that you are going to put your trust into someone,  The DOM needs to show proof in his action that he is worthy of that trust,  If your dom tells you that they will do x, y, and z and when the time comes, they don't actually follow through with what they say then its a red flag you just can not ignore.

9. They don't respect you.

Do I really need to get into this one?

These red flags are easy to notice and can not be missed. Just be on the lookout fort them and I can assure you that you will have a real good time with your chosen one while exploring your BDSM journey,

Get initiated into BDSM, now taking submissive interns for the class of 2021

Are you like so many other women who are fascinated by BDSM but are not sure of this lifestyle is for you? If the answer is yes then this internship is for you and just go ahead and email me at cruelmaster777@gmail.com to book your spot in the class of 2021.  Its going to be the fourth batch and the outcome of the previous 3 batches has been very satisfying both for me as well as the interns, The pandemic did cause a break but now I am again excited to start the new batch,  Its a perfectly safe way to explore your sexuality and to discover your submissive side. 

What will you learn?

Through a series of Gmail chat session you will learn the following

- Find out if you are really a submissive or its just a fantasy

- Learn how you can gently initiate yourself in the BDSM lifestyle,

- Learn how to free yourself of any self doubts or guilt that trap most of beginners. 

- Learn the do's and the don'ts that you must follow if you are a beginner. This is the most important part to make sure that your safety is fully ensure in every aspect 

Who can Apply?

All females above the age of 18 can apply, During the google chats you should be able to go on voice chats when commanded, 

So hurry now and email me at ruelmaster777@gmail.com  as the spots are limited

How to find the right BDSM partner in Delhi, Gurgaon, Noida?

 If you have reached this page then I am assuming that you are looking really hard to get into the BDSM circles in Delhi. You know you can not openly talk about it and if you are a woman then you have other pressing concerns such as privacy, security etc. 

So How do you go about finding the right BDSM partner?

The best way to get the answer is to see how other people are finding their partners in Delhi.  Over the past 7 years I conducted survey amongst 100 BDSM practitioners I came across and here are the results:

Remember most of them are people like you who would have exhausted every option so you can take this data as a very good guide map before you also set out to find the right partner.

Most people Find their partners through personal introductions!

Yes this is right! And in my opinion too this is the safest and quickest way to get into the lifestyle. If you a a member of fetlife then you already know that these are just a waste of time.  And being in India you already know that it is not easy to get invite to munches and believe me that they are really non existent. You may not always get a chance to strike these conversations openly but be on the lookout and you will surely get an opportunity to discover that there are others like in the circles that you know!

Explore with your partner. Talk with your partner about it today!

Nearly all of us have a Dom or a Sub hidden deep within us. So just give it a chance. Do it as a fun roleplay activity with your partner. If not anything else the role play itself is going to add a little spice into your bedroom!